Narasimhan wrote, with this question:
I read your article on changing attitude.I agree with that.
I also have strong belief in changing attitude. But my
problem is how to overcome the people who hinder my change.
I want to be myself, but I am not able to be that due to the
hindrance from others.
The philosopher Sartre wrote that "Hell is other people."*
Now, I'm not so sure about that, but I do know that people can make trying to change one's attitude a living hell.**
Unfortunately, the only change most people are comfortable with is the change they find beneath the cushions of their couch... All the rest, not so much.
You can't change them anyway, only yourself, so that's where your focus should be: on you and the change you're trying to make.
When nay-sayers and "boo birds" get in your way with lots of negativity you can either...
1) Ignore it.
Chances are slim that you'll change their minds about what you're doing, so save yourself the time & energy and focus on what you can do.
2) Challenge it.
Tell the person why you're doing what you're doing, why it's important to you, and why you would value their support... even if that support comes in the form of "saying nothing" (versus "saying nothing nice").
3) Channel it.
Smile, say "Thank you," and then take that negative energy and turn it into something positive.
There are plenty of examples of monstrous, huge successes who were fueled by people telling them "You're crazy!" "You'll never succeed!" "You don't have the right XYZ to do that!"
Think of each negative comment as another log to throw on the fire that's lighting the way to your new life...
Also, keep in mind that EVERYBODY faces obstacles like this as they try to make positive changes in their lives.
It's how the universe keeps us honest and tests our commitment to our goals and dreams.
When you keep making the change you want to make in the face of negativity, you're telling the universe, "This is who I am! This is what I want!"
And the more you do that, the more you'll get what you want, and the more you'll become the person you really are...
Ultimately, that is what's most important...
Being able to look at your life and being happy with who you are, what you are doing, and what you've done.
Remember: You don't have to live with those negative people, but you do have to live with yourself.
So, as the saying goes, "keep on keeping on" and keep up the good work!
I hope that helps!
*Interestingly, George Bernard Shaw once said, "Hell is full of musical amateurs: music is the brandy of the damned."
**Adrienne Gusoff said, however, that "Living hell is the best revenge."
Personally, I like what Marilyn Monroe said the best: "Ever notice that 'what the hell' is always the right decision?"