There’s a challenging big idea I've been trying to wrap my head – and behavior – around for some time here in the recent past. Let me share it with you…
To start, stop and think about each of your actions and ask yourself why you do them.
Chances are you have a specific outcome in mind for everything that you do. --You are looking to create a certain outcome or a specific effect in your life.
Now ask yourself, how much time do you spend thinking about the effect you that want to create?
If you're like most folk (and I include myself in there, too, BTW), you probably spend a lot of time worrying about the outcome of your efforts instead simply enjoying the process of what you're doing.
What if you changed that?
What if you did things without worrying about the result? Without concentrating on the effect you were having?
I'm not saying that you stop caring about what you're doing, only that you shift you're focus from the result to the process. Consider your success not by how others react to what you do, but on your own evaluation of how you are doing what you do.
It's a shift from being at effect (where you are looking to specifically effect a change) to being at cause (where you do things because those are the things you do).
A subtle – but not so simple – shift in thinking that truly provides a new perspective.